The word “no” is a very powerful word which depicts disagreement or discontent with a given motion. It is probably one of the most difficult words to say after receiving a request from people. So many people even feel pressured to say “yes” because they do not want to disappoint or hurt someone’s feelings. It is very important to be strict with your “no” and avoid being a person-pleaser, so as to take care of your life and make utmost use of your time for things that are of utmost importance.
You may feel guilty when you say “no”, but it helps you avoid disappointing people in the long run when you are unable to fulfil the promise or run out of time to fulfil it. In the Christendom, it is imperative to be firm in decisions so as to uphold the status of God. In the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20, the use of “thou shall not” implies strictness and as such we should be strict in our decision and not moved by the tides of “change”.
The ease of saying “no” is of enormous importance as it helps you set boundaries. Setting boundaries becomes easy as you learn what you will do and what you won’t do. It also allows people to know you are capable of making your own decisions. Saying “no” also helps you focus on your life and set your priorities. This is an effective way to protect your interests without allowing others detect what you should do. Doesn’t this sound selfish? Ok! It may, but that helps you deliver your best in what you know how best to do.
Be assertive with your “no”. Do not say “maybe” or “probably”. It sound unclear. Most people appreciate a solid “no” than a “maybe”. It’s indecision that can drain energy from all parties involved. Mind you, people use different methods to make others say “yes” even when they do not want to. They whine, compliment and even bully you to say otherwise. Be aware of that and you’ll identify when people are manipulating or forcing a “yes” from you.
Finally it is pertinent to be polite with your “no”. Saying “no” does not mean you should be impolite, learn to say “no” politely and it will be easy for you to turn down requests without feeling guilty. No matter what people think about your decision to say “no”, saying “no” does not mean you are inconsiderate or selfish, it only means you are strong enough to set your priorities; be a person of your word and manage your time and at the same time, apply your decision-making authority.