These are fantastic discussions to see what you both want out of your life, how you plan on handling difficult situations, so as to make sure that the intimacy in marriage is maintained and where you see yourselves in the future. Here are some few issues to discuss before walking down the aisle, so as to make sure you have not only prepared for just wedding, but marriage.
- DEALING WITH THE UNFORESEEN
So many cases are unpredictable especially in marriage— sickness, the death of a loved one or spouse, trouble conceiving, and financial instabilities. How are you planning to deal with any of such situations or even more? Preparing to handle situations as these is a practical way to prepare for marriage and not just wedding.
- FALLING OUT OF LOVE
Marriages are filled with many emotion, which are often very pleasant and in most cases, unpleasant. At times, people may always love one another, but not necessarily be in love. You have to know whether you are committed to staying even when you know you don’t feel anything for your partner anymore. Have you any plans of rekindling your romance and sexual intimacy when you fall. It isn’t that romantic you know, but I guess it is an important one especially before marriage.
- DO YOU WANT CHILDREN?
The issue of bearing and raising children must be discussed before marriage to know your stands. It has become challenge to some recently, while to others it is a manageable issue in marriage. To come to a conclusion on your future together, you need to sit down and talk about children. Whether you both want children or not, if either party wants children or the other does not. Another thing is how long you intend to stay together before child bearing. This is an important topic that should be discussed.
- WHY YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED
Make sure there is no room for the word ‘divorce’ when you speak, and bear in in mind to resolve issues amicably. In as much as you love one another, do you know why you are getting married? Are you compatible? Do you have the same goals and beliefs? Do you see how you would be of benefit to your partner and how he/she will I turn be beneficial to you? Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3).
- YOUR VALUES AND BELIEFS
In as much as you don’t deem it fit to know if you have and share the same religion, political views, and moral standards when you are courting, it is good to know these before you say ‘I do’. Knowing your individual differences, earlier and resolving them before marriage will help you deal with any glaring differences in the future of your marriage.
- HOW YOU CAN KEEP YOUR PARTNER HAPPY
To build and maintain a long lasting marriage, there is need for your partner’s happiness, emotional and physical needs to be your watch-word. Knowing that your responsibilities in marriage include putting your partner first, then you are almost done with the pre-marriage course. You plan for a marriage and not just wedding, when you create avenues to keep your partner happy at all times.
- WHERE YOU WILL RESIDE
Have you discussed where to live after marriage and how do you intend to actualize that? This is a conversation that is of enormous benefits before getting married. Are you going to live in a different city from where you met? Are you going to travel abroad to live? The intention of a woman when it comes to issues of where to settle is different from that of a man. A woman wants to live in the most beautiful cities, whereas the man considers some factors such as proximity to office, source of livelihood, income generation and availability to and for family. This information is vital and will help in family planning as a working couple.
Though this issues may be discussed before marriage, they are still possible to change with change is marriage due to having children, income generation and many more.