For a marriage that is centred on friendship, sexual and physical intimacy, loyalty and commitment towards one another to be achieved, the couples have few things that they have to do on a daily basis. These things are called principles of a healthy romantic marriage and they are essential to achieve a healthy romantic marriage. They include but not limited to the following:
- DEVELOP A LISTENING HABIT
In the course of disagreement and argument, listen to your partner first to hear him/her out. No matter how much you disagree with his/her opinion, don’t make him/her look stupid. Listen carefully to validate your partner’s opinion, before you can lay down your disagreement logically. Mind you, when everybody is talking, nobody is talking!
- ACCEPT AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
There is this popular saying that, “when you blame another person for a bad situation, you give away your power to redeem the situation”. That is to say, that the blame game is not necessary at all, accept responsibility for some marital problems and try to resolve them. Trying so much to change your partner does not always work out, try to change yourself first. Take the lead and watch your partner follow suit.
- ENSURE YOUR HAPPINESS YOURSELF
Do you know that no one has the power to cause you pain until you permit him to? “There is nothing on earth you cannot have – once you have mentally accepted the fact that you can have it”. – Robert Collier. Brian Tracy in his book titled “Change your Thinking Chang your Life” reiterated it, your attitudes, positive or negative, constructive or destructive, lead to corresponding images, emotions and actions that affect your life and relationships. Even when thing aren’t right, you can consistently decide to create positive emotions. Don’t let your husband or wife decide when you should be happy or sad.
- ENSURE THAT PEACE REIGNS
The consciousness of your actions should be part of your responsibility. What do I mean? Questions like – What should I do to make him/her feel loved? How can I help her today? How can I help him today? Before you do these, you ought to understand his/her love language, then work towards doing them. Don’t give up on him/her, try everything possible to bring greater peace in the marriage/relationship. Do forget, you have the power to bring in lasting peace in your relationship if you so wish.
- IMPORTANT THINGS FIRST
Discover what is important and what is not in your relationship. What makes you connect more? This is a wonderful and priceless discovery. Most people get more connected with sex, others get more connected with kisses every special moment, some get pissed off by so many talking whereas others enjoying talking. Discovering which one that helps you and doing it, keeps you going. Physical intimacy is what differentiates a friendship from romantic relationship. Enjoy your marriage – sexually and otherwise.
So many things have been written and said about maintaining a healthy romantic marriage, no knowledge is a waste in terms of keeping the marriage working. Nevertheless, these tips are very essential to keep the romance and so many others. Just know which one works best for you.