In every relationship, there are few things that determine how rosy or furious the relationship can be. What works for one might not really work for another as the case may be. No matter how your marriage seems to you, call it “fun”, “lovely”, “romantic” or even “rough” one thing is certain, you are responsible for the cause of these feelings at any point. So, to get the best out of your relationship or marriage, here are three things to found your marriage on.
- COMMITMENT AND DETERMINATION
In the course of life, to achieve anything demands commitment and determination. To get the best out of your marriage, you have to be committed to putting in your best to make your partner feel at home. Whatever you want in your marriage is a question of what you put into your marriage. You want a loving, kind, caring and listening partner? Then show your partner example, lead the way. You don’t want a sorrowful marriage, then don’t hurt your partner, don’t provoke him/her to wrath. Commitment is just like reaping what you sow, don’t forget that. Give in the best and the best will get back at you.
- ACCEPTANCE AND APPRECIATION
Without doubt, the best gift you can give to anyone is the gift of acceptance and appreciation for who they are, how much more your spouse. We stated earlier that one of the signs you are not ready for marriage is that you expect to change your partner. You should not expect your partner to think or behave like you miraculously. Trying to change your partner to suit you, may eventually lead to frustration and if not carefully monitored, divorce is the other fruit.
If you really want to achieve the two above, then this no 3 is a must have. One of the challenges most marriages today is lack of intimacy. Spending time together is the best way to avoid drifting apart. By spending time together, you can tell your partner your worries or fears, dreams or desires and even your disappointments and frustrations. This will help the two of you to put heads together to proffer solutions to your challenges and hence enjoy your marriage.