What intrigues me most is the quality of wedding most couples give their attention to. Without mincing words, one may ask, “How do you want your marriage to be”? Then get answers like, “I want my wedding to be celebrated at the best cities in town and my honeymoon in Paris, Bahamas and so many other stuffs. When you get answers like this, you begin to wonder if it is actually the quality of the wedding that matters or the quality of the marriage.
So many ladies see it as a competition when they attend wedding receptions, forgetting that the quality of the wedding does not and will never determine the longevity of the marriage. Come to think of it, the grand wedding reception of Miss Whyte compared to that of Miss Dom did not guarantee it lasted longer than Miss Dom’s. Though, it is not bad to have a grand reception, in fact, it leaves your invitees with an evergreen memory of what a wedding reception should look like. Who cares about their impression?
So many ladies have missed their ideal men because at a particular time in history when they would have married, their men were not able to guarantee the type of wedding they wanted their friends to witness and hence many remained unmarried. The average lady thinks of a grand wedding where as a mature lady thinks of a successful marriage.
So many marriages have failed and will continue to fail until we realize the difference between marriage and wedding. When you see an ideal man, and you heart tells you he is the right guy for you, what do you do? His financial maturity at the time should not be prerequisite. Though, he should be financially matured. You should consider his vision too. Is he the type that does not relent? Does he have passion for success? If yes, then consider him. Do not get intimidated by your friend’s wedding and hence, since you’re not guaranteed of such grand wedding yet, you pass your man. That dream wedding reception must not come on the wedding day. It could come as an anniversary. It could come on the fifth anniversary, tenth or even silver jubilee and you can then match your dream. Don’t expect it on the wedding day. Be his help meet and push him to that success level you wanted. Definitely you will enjoy your marriage.
The most successful marriages are not those with a grand wedding reception, but those which stood the challenges of time. Those which the couple took as their responsibility and priority to foster love and unity. The ones that the wives respected their husbands and the husbands loved their wives. The best marriages, are not usually the ones that the man had everything before marriage, but the ones both the man and woman built their empire together. The one they toiled together to achieve success.
The question is, “Is it marriage or wedding”? So, don’t forget to get the right knowledge. Do not push him away due to your quest for a grand wedding. Remember, that your friend whose wedding you want to better, might have borrowed to get such a rousing wedding, and may not have been at peace with himself/herself due to the debts incurred in other to have such a great wedding. That wedding may have been sponsored by another person altogether. Do not allow yourself be put into debts due to your quest for a grand wedding. Rather, challenge yourself to have an exceptional marriage, which you’ll be proud of and people will be proud to reference your marriage. Feel free to leave your comments below.