Emotional maturity is the act of emotional awareness and cannot be overemphasized when we talk about relationship. Of course, without it, one is said to be unequipped to talk about relationship and marriage. Emotional maturity when achieved, affects who we are and definitely the way we behave toward other people we come across. Emotional maturity is not a question of age, it is gradually developed just like any other form of maturity. To develop emotional maturity, one needs to understand the signs of emotional maturity as it makes us whom we are and how we feel toward others.
- KNOWING HOW/WHEN TO ASK FOR HELP
You don’t have to wait until the sea gets to your neck before you raise your hand for help. At times your emotions seem to eat you up, this is the time you need to ask for help. When you feel like you cannot handle it again, ask for help. Don’t think that sharing a facebook post is enough, talk to a friend or counselor when the need arises. Doing this is a sign of emotional maturity.
- CONSCIOUS OF SENTIMENT
You don’t allow sentiment becloud your sense of judgement. In as much as you may not agree that you are bias or sentimental toward some issues or topics be it religious, cultural or moral topics, you don’t have to condemn people who do not share similar ideology with you. Being aware of these biases will help you accept them and as well help you to control your reactions toward them.
- ALLOWING VULNERABILITY
People due to fear of being hurt in a relationship, shut the doors to scare the opposite sex away from them. This happens especially when you have been hurt previously in a relationship. This shows you are emotionally immature and unfit but gradually without even knowing, this fear begins to fade away. Now you are not afraid to love again because you can now face whatever that comes your way in a relationship. This is a sign of emotional maturity.
- KNOWING WHEN TO QUIT
Quitting is never my word. All the same, you don’t have to kill yourself over certain things. No matter how you try, there are certain conditions in life that will always disagree to be fixed. Knowing when enough is enough. Knowing when to walk away from that relationship that has refused to work no matter how you have tried to fix it, or that boss that has refused to acknowledge your efforts is a sign of emotional maturity.
- LACK OF JUDGEMENT
Total freedom from judgement means you have developed emotional maturity. Putting aside your feelings (especially when the person in question has not really been a friend) and concentrating on the way to solve the problems of others is a sign you are compassionate about others and have emotions. Having the mind to help people again and again and not judge them especially when they have ignored your warnings previously. This shows a sign of emotional maturity.
- REALIZING AND ACCEPTING YOUR ERRORS
Your ability to realize your errors and accept that you cannot do anything about them is a sign emotional maturity. You cannot change the past but you can affect the future. Mistakes are normal, acknowledging them and moving on makes you emotionally mature and helps you stop crying over spilled milk.
- KNOWING WHEN TO REACT
You are emotionally mature when you don’t allow yourself to be taken unaware. This means thinking before taking reactions toward actions. You don’t allow yourself to get angry at every mockery or fight over every word meant to offend you, rather figuring out the reasons behind peoples acts toward you.
When you see these signs, it is a go and be sure you are gradually developing emotionally. If you have not observed these signs, work toward them and you will achieve them. Remember, it is a gradual process.
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