Have you given it a second thought and wondered if you are ready for marriage? There are no many life changing decisions as deciding to say “I do”. This is so crucial, so, you have to know and be decided that you are ready to for marriage to your partner and if it is the best thing to do. Here are 10 signs you are ready for marriage, paying attention to these signs will help you discern if you are ready to get married and spend the rest of your life with your partner during hard times and at the same time avoid divorce.
- YOU HAVE DECIDED TO GET MARRIED TO YOUR PARTNER
Marrying your partner should be your personal decision and not what he or she has to pressurize you into. This is a sign you are ready for marriage. You should also be able to tell yourself if you are the one making the choice and not your friends, family or out of frustration due to events in the society. Don’t see marriage as an obligation you must carryout, let it be seen as what you want to do. This will help you avoid untimely divorce.
- YOU HAVE NO FEARS ABOUT MARRYING YOUR PARTNER
This is a telling sign you are ready for marriage, knowing you have no reservation when it comes to marrying your partner. Remember, thinking that your partner will change, is a sign you are not ready for marriage, another thing is having fears and doubts. When you have observed that all your fears and doubts have been eliminated, then you can be sure you are ready for marriage, so it does not end in divorce, rather in utmost intimacy.
- YOU ARE COMMITTED TO YOUR PARTNER
Commitment in marriage is a vital topic. You should be able to know that marriage is all about staying with one person and that person alone. Now you have to cut any distraction caused by attraction to that colleague at work or that ex you’ve found difficult to forget and mind your business with your partner and spouse to be. At the same time, be able to commit to your partner at all cost be it in sickness, poverty and any other difficulties that comes in marriage.
- YOU HAVE LEARNT TO FIGHT RIGHTLY
In times of dispute and disagreement, how ready are you to stand your ground and face your spouse without fear of harming your marriage or fear of divorce. Are you ready to ‘fight’ for your marriage when troubles loom. Marriage conflict can lead to tension if not handled properly and at the same time bring couples together and closer if taken care of and settled with the right and proper measures. Hence, it gives them a deeper sense of understanding of their partners and enable them resolve unforeseen issues amicably.
- YOU CAN OPENLY COMMUNICATE
This indicates that you are ready for marriage. Your ability to discuss whatever topic with your partner freely without limits and keeping secrets. Your ability to communicate with your partner without fear and communicating honestly is a sign that your marriage will not lack intimacy and will remove any fear of loneliness─ which is a secret killer of marriage. Honesty is the foundation of trust in marriage and ought to be minded in all forms of communication. Effective communication is not limited to talking alone, you should be totally minded and be able to listen to him or her, else, you are not ready for marriage yet.
- YOU’VE DISCUSSED FINANCE
Have you sat down and discussed your personal financial situations─ debt, student loans, income, spending tendencies, financial goals, and other miscellaneous monetary information. You have to be open about these issues. Although, it may not flow naturally, but at any slightest chance, make it a topic of discussion and don’t hide any truth about it. Good financial management will ensure your marriage lasts.
- YOUR FUTURE PLANS ARE THE SAME
Marriage is not all about now because it is not just wedding. Discussions about children, where to reside, where to spend your vacations and holidays should be alike and not cause disagreement. You should be able to discuss if you are going into marriage to make children or not. All things being equal, the number of children to have should be discussed and possibly the intervals of birth.
- YOUR VALUES ARE ALIKE
Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3). Do you share similar values and beliefs? In as much as you are not of the same state or region, you may not share the same hobbies or of the same religious denomination in Christianity, at least ensure your orientations are the same. How do you think together? Do you think you can help him get to his dream land and he takes you to yours? Do you people have the same vision? Do you have the same faith? (Faith here mustn’t be the same church, but the same believe or ideology). This is very important because, in as much as goat and sheep are domestic animals, they don’t stay together. “Ontological specimens of identical plumage, invariably conglomerate in the same vicinity”. This is very important as it is what ensures you are compatible.
- YOU HAVE DATED/COURTED HIM/HER FOR LONG
When you have known your partner in and out, and can tell yourself the truth about whom he/she is and not doubting yourself about your conviction. This is a sign you are ready for marriage to him/her without undue fear or anxiety of what may happen in the long run. Now you know you are no longer infatuating but in love with him/her.
- YOU LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY AND RESPECT ONE ANOTHER
Here, be sure that it is not for materialism that you want to get married. You have found out you love your partner not because of the gift your partner showers you but because you have seen you cannot do without your partner. You are very sure you are going to be there for them no matter what comes along the line? Remember, for better! For worse! This is the watch word. The men see respect as love, and as a woman are you sure you respect him? This means you respect his decisions in the family. The man should be able to love his wife as Christ loves the church.
These signs tell you whether or not you are ready and prepared for the next step in life. As well as tell you beforehand whether you are getting a success in marriage or not, marrying for the right reasons or not.